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Should I Focus on My Child’s Strengths or Weaknesses?

Do you find yourself focusing more on your child’s strengths or on their weaknesses?

Are your children confident in who they are and in their strengths? Or do you hear them saying that they aren’t smart enough, aren’t good enough, or aren’t fast enough?

Is it hard to motivate them and to encourage them to reach for more?

Listen in to this episode of Q&A Thursday as Kimberly shares how you can motivate and encourage your children in their strengths and their weaknesses.

We have covered a lot of ground in this Q&A Thursday, including:

2:27 – What is the difference between encouraging words such as, “Way to go! Great job!” and genuine, intentional, specific words of praise?

5:48 – We are going after a mindset of truth here. What results do a truth mindset get us?

7:57 – Hold up there! We can’t just celebrate our child’s strengths. We’ve got to help them work through their weaknesses.

8:24 – What’s the difference between calling our kids out and calling them up?

10:36 – Anyone hungry? We’re talking about sandwiches! It’s called the Sandwich method and it just might be the breakthrough that you need with your kids. Be sure to grab a pen and paper to write down the four sentence starters Kimberly shares.

18:26 – Do your children need to excel in all areas?

19:52 – Watch out for those bad attitudes toward their weaknesses! Don’t allow it.

21:08 – Kimberly shares Erica’s big win with her son, Clayton when she used the “I Am Brave” Speak Life Badge.

Speak Life Badges is not meant to be a curriculum or a study that you need to spend hours studying or memorizing. It is meant to be a tool that you can refer back to when you need to address character growth, to award them for their strengths, and to encourage them to work through their weaknesses.

Use the award badges to call them up and not out. Use the award badges and scripts to teach the truth about how they are and who they can grow to become.

Still stuck on how to change, motivate, and to encourage your children? Watch this short video clip from Kimberly.

Now I would love to hear from you.

What part of this episode resonated most and why? What is one strength that you see in each of your children? Share them in the comments below. Commit to telling each child today with your intentional, specific words, “I admire you because you….”

Leave a comment below and let me know. Share as much detail as possible in your reply. So many amazing moms, dads, grandparents, and teachers come here for insight and motivation. Your story may help someone have a meaningful breakthrough.

Important:   Share your thoughts and ideas directly in the comments.  Keep your comments positive, as no bad attitudes are allowed here.  Nor is judgment or criticism allowed.  We are here to cheer each other on in this amazing parenting journey together.  Links to other posts, videos, etc. will be removed.

It’s important that you hear this:

Your words matter for this moment and for their future. The goal with intentionally watching our words today, even in the frustrating trying moments, is so that we help truth to take root in their hearts and in their minds. We went them to hold, to protect, and to nurture the truth about who they are and who they can grow to become so that the truth carries with them into adulthood.

With enormous love,


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